How to Get to Marriage from Dating Relationship?
I got lots of questions from different age of singles asking why their dating relationship can't go on wheels and end up with a perfect marriage. These days, while "fast-food" kind of adult dating relationship prevails among younger generation, there are still major group of singles yearn for marriage and mature dating instead of casual hookups and quick fling. We never had any lesson from the beginning to teach us how to manage and maintain a relationship, but dating and relationship occupy a considerably large part of our life.
Practice seems to be the only way we learn this lesson. However, I'm telling you, regarding mature dating relationship, theoretical knowledge can also play a significant role. Here is some relationship advice which might be helpful on maintaining a relationship. We can't say you are going to get a perfect marriage after you learned these, but they can surely add some pleasure and constancy into the whole relationship, even if you are only into casual hook up instead of dating, you might still be inspired by some of it.
First and foremost, please forget all about your exes. It's understandable that we all have some exes in our life who are generous, kind, sophisticated or have a good sense of humor. Sometimes we might have some regret or still feel a little bit attached. The point is, we must be aware that it's finished, for good. It just didn't work out for some reason. We need to face the fact and accept it to be able to embrace our next relationship.
Therefore, do not compare your current partner with your exes. Instead, try to create new and favorable memories so that you can discover more charming side of his/her. In particularly, do not bring up your exes in front of your current partner. No one wants to be compared, especially with someone whom you once liked. This can be a destruction to your current relationship. Just let it go.
Be in it for 100%. This is one of the best relationship advice I've ever received. Mostly triggered by our past failed relationship, such topic is often discussed among girls who got hurt badly from their last relationship: whether to have a little reservation in the next relationship to prevent themselves from getting hurt again. What I want to advice here is that one can hardly reap a happy ending if such concept is set beforehand, because you don't have the expectation to see that this relationship will grow for better.
Such negative attitude can be an indication of a not-so-good ending. When two persons are in a mature dating relationship, both parties should go all in and expect the same in return. This is what differs dating relationship from discreet hookup dating and quick fling. If you are thinking about the way out, this relationship will be disposable. How can you expect such relationship to last long?
Thirdly, have your own life. Some people consider love as important as life. We've heard different love stories around the world portraying hundreds and thousands of characters dying for love. However, the truth is, if you deem love as vital as your life, it'll make your life very miserable. One of the reasons why so many people choose hooking up and easy flirt over steady and long-term relationship is the front one requires less energy and less drama to deal with. In other words, so that they can focus more on themselves. I'm not telling you to be selfish in a relationship.
My point is to not lose your own living even if you are madly in love with someone. Remember to arrange time to catch up with your friends and family. Leave some space to enrich and improve yourself. Have a hobby, so that you won't fixate all of your energy on relationship. This is also a way to keep your relationship fresh.
